Have you ever been in the mood for making love and tried your best to seduce your man, only to be turned down? It certainly is a very strange feeling for women. According to our very own beliefs, we always think that men love to have sex. In fact, we believe that’s what goes on in their minds throughout the day. Well, we do see their excitement over half-naked women and porn, and also their mannerisms when they are courting us. It seems as obvious as it can get that their goal is to take us to bed. Women do enjoy these moments too because they certainly make them feel attractive and wanted.
But definitely something changes when we get into a relationship. What is that? We know about things that change and we do get them. We know men are tired when they come home from work; there is work pressure, money stress and even sudden bouts of depression. But what do you do when you seduce your man and he turns you down? It was they who trained us to think much differently of the male desire and his libido.
Once, one of my male friends actually told me why he turned down his wife for sex after marriage more often than she did. He said he felt lazy and he chose masturbating over putting out with his wife. That’s the biggest difference between men and women right here. Mostly, women will agree to have sex with their partners even if they are not in the mood, just to make them happy. However, men do not because they physically cannot. It’s better to talk to your female partner and let them know why you said no rather than giving them bland answers and making them feel what’s being described below:
What You Feel When You Seduce Your Man and Fail
He doesn’t find me attractive anymore
Most women when turned down for sex by their partners actually succumb to the feeling that they aren’t as attractive anymore. Of course, women notice when their men ogle at the ladies passing by them in the streets or how they laugh over sex jokes sent over to them by their friends. But when you, as their wives or girlfriends, reach out to seduce your man and get turned down, you start feeling that you cannot turn on your partner anymore.
In this instance, perhaps men you can turn to you and speak out some loving words to explain why they don’t feel into it rather than turning down blandly.
He’s having an affair
That’s the second of the most common thought women have when their men turn them down for sex. It takes a lot of courage for you to seduce your man and when turned down, your self-respect and ego take a fall. Women, then, aren’t left with much choice other than to think the above or that their men are having an affair.
Men should understand and not close off their women when they are sad that their men won’t have sex with them. Just understand and be compassionate about where women are coming from. Make your women realize that it’s always not about them.